Party Etiquette 101: Bridal Showers and Other Events for Honorees

You've received an invitation to a party either online or in the mail.  The event is "in honor of "  one entity, i.e., the bride, and hosted by another entity, i.e., maid of honor.
The host provides contact information.  What this means:

• If you have any questions or comments about this event, contact the host.  
• If you think you may be communicating with the honoree between the time of the invitation and the time of the event, you should contact the host to find out what details should not be shared with the honoree. 
•  If you can't keep a secret, limit the time you spend with the honoree until after the event.
• R.S.V.P. as soon as possible, and only to the host.  
• Do not contact the honoree with ANY questions about the event.

Unfortunately, there are adults in this world, and in my extended sphere of influence, who do not have knowledge of etiquette. Maybe they know the rules, and with selfish disregard for others, choose to conduct themselves according to their own impulses.

Prior to a recent event I attended, I heard several reports of "guests behaving badly".  I try to reserve judgment, and like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt.  But, Who Does This???????

• ask the honoree what she's wearing to the event 
• in the process, disclose the venue that was supposed to be a surprise
• ask the honoree not to tell the host, and "act surprised"
• ask the honoree for directions to the venue
• ask the honoree for permission to bring a guest

I repeat, contact the host and only the host with any and all questions about the event!  

This has been a public service announcement from the Goddess of Caffeine.